Like the super facts
known to me, which I never question like:
Sun rises in east and
sets in the west, or
We live on planet
earth, or
Dog's tail can never
be straight!
This fact was
unquestioned by me - that women do laundry.
Seeing my mother or
sister or a female taking over the entire cycle of the laundry work right from
picking up the dirty clothes to getting washed and ironed and shelved. I never
questioned like other things. It was like a unchangeable fact. I had no problem
with it.
Till I got married. Because
after that I had.
I had problem with
everything and every work which I had to do after my wedding. May be I was not
prepared that I will have to take over all the work which my mom did.
Slowly and steadily I
picked up with everything but one thing I just couldn't....just couldn't do was
- ironing the clothes.
The harder I tried,
the more hatred for this part of laundry settled in me. I was very clear about
it. I can't do ironing.
Thank God, that my
husband is not that fussy and didn't crib or forced me to do that. So, we
outsourced this work. :-/
Then also it never
occurred to me he can also do these works. Though in case of urgency, he would
step up and do the ironing.
But my thought for
this whole laundry work and other task simply associated with women changed.
For good. When I saw the west, closely.
We did take a lot of
inspiration from the west - in dressing up or in openness of relationships or the work culture or
celebrating various days like rose day and many others.
What we never
took the inspiration was the way of their life. They actually have a
equality of work in their life. The work is not designated by the gender. Like
cooking or laundry or cleaning is not the sole responsibility of the female. It
is a combined responsibility of both the partners who planned to live
together. So, they cook together, clean together and do the laundry together.
Why not we?
We Indians have
adapted ourselves in many ways or our own betterment, then I think changing
something for your better half won't be a pain.
Let's do it - Men!
Share the work load! Do
it...together, if you can't start to do it all by yourself.
Move for the change!
Show your love by
sharing the responsibilities and not just by flashy words and cuddly bears!
What say!
You are right !! Let me tell this to my hubby :)
ReplyDeleteYes Sur ...we need to bring the change...n it starts from you! ;)
DeleteAbsolutely right !!
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