Sunday, 27 October 2013

Be alert, Be safe, Be happy!

With the growing abuse against women, somewhere in our minds, all of us have become somewhat alert. Leave aside night, 'these few men' are not even scared of day light and do such heinous crime.

Talking of Pune, well it is a safe city. People are happy go lucky types and you will find good educated crowd, a mix of family, bachelor, student and working people. But then problem doesn't ask the name of the city and come. We still need to be alert and follow precautionary measures. 

I have a very different ways to keep me feel safe. I am sharing my tips: 

1. Keep your bag manageable and carry as less things as possible. 
When our bag is filled with stuffs, it takes all our attention to find a simple thing. Our purse should have just what is needed.

2. Keep an alternate phone and number.
It may sound stupid, but I carry my new phone with my permanent number and old phone with a alternate pre-paid number. I charge my old phone once a while and it carries number of my close ones. If by chance, one phone get discharged, other will be a savior.

3. Keep a small dairy with numbers of close ones.
When my phone is active, all numbers are in place and as soon as it gets discharged, what then? 

4. Keep pepper spray.
A must buy from store.

5. Have a good look at the auto-vala/taxi-driver before you board his auto/taxi.
All of our instincts work, you just need to trust it. So, have a look at the auto-vala/taxi-driver and ask yourself whether you want to board it or not. Don't be in a hurry.

6. Call and tell auto/taxi number to close ones.
In case there are hardly any option to choose for autos/taxis or if you don't feel good or in other situations too, after boarding the auto/taxi, speak to your close ones or at least pretend to (if your phones are just not working) and tell them the auto/taxi - registration number and make sure the auto-vala/taxi-driver hears it. 

7. Don't talk about personal issues or your whereabouts in public.
While on a long or short journey, if we happen to be alone, we often find a long lost friend or someone to speak to and we usually speak about almost everything. Be aware of the fact that others have ears too. In public place, please be more responsible and cautious. Keep pleasure talks for private places like home, office or when with some responsible company.

8. Don't take short-cuts just because auto-vala/taxi-driver says so.
Sometimes we are in hurry and to avoid traffic we take short cuts just because auto-vala/taxi-driver says so. Or, even worse, we are new to the place, the sign board tells us which way to go, follow that whatever the auto-vala/taxi-driver says. Don't take a short cut, if you are not sure of it. Everything and anything can wait, as long as you are fine.

9. Be confident.
In spite of everything, you might be in some challenging situation, keep your cool. Look confident but not ignorant. Be alert.

10. Make noise.
Yet if the problem persist, don't be frightened. Make noise. Start talking loudly. Collect as many people as you can. The stalker will run for sure. 

11. Don't let anyone feel that you are staying alone.
Well, I am in this situation right now, couldn't help including the eleventh tip. Don't let any one like the person who delivers milk or ironed clothes or vegetables know that you are alone at home. If at all they ask for your counterpart, say he has gone out for work or he is on his way back home. 

Be alert, Be safe, Be happy!

I am sharing my smart suraksha tips at   in association with Smart Suraksha App

AB SURAKSHA mere hathon mein!

I recently saw video - 'It's my fault'! I totally agree! Don't I!

It is my fault to wear what I want to - it may be covered from head to toe or not!
It is my fault to go with or without people wherever I want to!
It is my fault to put my trust on something called 'humanity'!

Enough of blaming us. We will take our own charge and will keep us protected. I stay in Pune, a city to be in - happy, friendly and safe! Well, I have taken my security in my hands and I follow the same tips for my protection how much ever safe, the city is! 

I will stand up for me - AB SURAKSHA mere hathon mein!
1. Awareness
First and the most important part of being safe and standing up for own guard is - AWARENESS. Awareness of your being at a place, people around, possible challenges and the worst outcomes! Awareness of the solution for the same! If one is aware, half battle is won indeed!

2. Boundaries -
You are the best person to judge how much you can take and how much you can fight! Set your own boundaries -
  • With whom you want to be friends with!
  • Where you want to go!
  • What time is suitable for you!
  • Whom you want to access your personal details on the social networking sites!
  • What kind of clothing will be suitable for a given place and people around!
It all depends on you. Set your boundaries right and tight, it will be difficult for unwanted elements to cross it!

3. Sixth sense -
We all have it! It always warns us! It alerts us of the danger! But we take light! 
Don't do it. Trust your gut feeling. Be alert! Somewhere you on know that the person, place or point is not correct! Don't go ahead for sake of false ego, attitude or image! Don't be in an illusion! Cause maybe it's actually not worth a try! In all situations, trust but yourself! Only!

4. Uphold -
Challenging situation might come how much ever precaution you take. Uphold your confidence. Nothing wrong will happen - trust this fact and keep your cool because - 
  • If you are confident, it ruins those elements' fun to see you weak and helpless and somewhat shakes their confidence!
  • If you keep your cool, you will listen to your mind which will for sure tell a way to escape the situation!
Durga and Mahakali - is you! You will do fine. Uphold your confidence!

5. Responsible -
Midnight stroll, waking on road in a zombie state or planning a surprise visit to a nearby or distant place without informing just anyone, travelling alone in a cab/auto without informing the details of the cab/auto! You are inviting trouble! Be responsible enough to - 
  • Take midnight stroll within the boundaries with known people.
  • Whatever the reason may be, walking in a complete zombie state is good to see on TV. Don't try it. Be aware of the vehicles crossing by or you crossing by a parked car. Be alert!
  • Surprise few but not everyone you know by not sharing your whereabouts. Send a friend or a family member your complete itinerary. Be safe where ever you go.
  • Travelling alone in night - ask the driver to share his registration number and send it to your family/friend. Don't ever take a chance. 
  • Be responsible enough not to talk about your private matters or about your whereabouts in public.

Be responsible - it's pays!

6. Applications -
We all have phones and be it of any range, most of the phones support various applications to connect to people. 'Smart Suraksha' being a newest and most useful when question of safety is raised! With just a tap, this application sends emergency message along with your location detail to selected five contacts and the police! It is playing God for us, even if the 'badnaam' Indian police comes a few minutes late, your loved ones will come for your guard in whatever way they can, at earliest! Whom can you trust more in troubled times, than your own own own people!

Update your contacts and use it right!

7. Knowledge -
Ignorance is not a bliss, always! Knowledge is not only key to success but also key to be safe.
  • Know the place well or use a detailed map. 
  • If you don't know about various short-cuts to bypass the heavy traffic, don't take it. Be late but be safe.
  • Know the people you interact with, just don't become friendly with every passer by.
  • Know the correct contact details of reliable help.
  • Know the people who come to your house to work.

Know everything. Keep yourself updated. Open your eyes, not just to see but to sense danger in light of your knowledge.

8. Surrounding
We all have a routine life, we follow the same every single day. Be aware of your surrounding which follows in your life everyday.
  • If anyone stalk you.
  • If the house-help behaves strangely.
  • If someone at office is giving you wrong signals.
  • If the way back home is not very safe.
  • If the friends you have, shouldn't be trusted too much.

There can be innumerable things which happen in your surrounding, be aware and alert about everything. If anything bothers you, voice it out immediately.

9. Hit Back
Every thing said and done, yet if you face an unwanted element in real - HIT BACK. 
  • Hit where it hurts the most.
  • Make a lot of noise.
  • Use your hands, leg, head, stones, stick, bag bottle or anything that can be used to hit them. And hit them hard.
  • Use your pepper spray in a very generous amount.
  • Tap your smart suraksha weapon and speed dial help.
  • Run and hit one more time before you run.

Power is mindset of yours, you are as powerful as much you want to be. Believe this fact. HIT HIT HIT.

10. Avoid
It's better to avoid certain things in life today, like - 
  • Avoid going out with people whom you barely know, either in day or night!
  • Avoid going to a hotel or resort or night outs with a less known, over friendly girl/boy friend - if you really want to go, take your own gang along and inform your family about every minute details(which includes phone numbers of ever one going for the party!)
  • Avoid going alone in night.
  • Avoid being the last one to be dropped back home from office.
Avoid anything which you think can take you to any unfavorable situation. It's not being boring, it's being sure, strong and safe!

'AB SURAKSHA' is in your hands too! Take your control and have a good, safe and happy life!

I am sharing my Smart Suraksha Tips at in association with Smart Suraksha App.

Thursday, 24 October 2013

Bigg boss fever!

I am a huge tv buff! I can watch anything and everything but with few favorites of course!

The show currently I just can't miss is - Bigg Boss! With a toddler, at times I have to give a miss, of course for a while, I watch it on YouTube as soon as she sleeps!

I just watched last night's episode and I am feeling so suffocated for the first time, for Tanisha! Had I been there I would have slapped that #@!$€£¥*%§…&%*%€¥$¥?€~€%~%^€…€^]%|£]+…€~+* fellow kushal! What he did, said and behaved was not right!

But then I just wondering if I am being supportive of Tanisha cause she has a sis who is still my favorite! Yaa, no doubt she has a extra point there but everyone had one points like Pratyusha was awesome in that serial, kushal was good! Somewhere they lost their good points and Tanisha earned an extra point which I give to her, solely!

Of course, I am no one to judge and neither am I in that situation, but I have always hated talking small about others and not seeing that rest of your own figures are pointing at you! Watch it, you can be wrong!

Another person I liked in today's episode was - Arman. He told Tanisha on her face that it was evident that she didn't fell! Hahahahaha that felling part was good. Tanisha you should have soiled his clothes a bit more!

Andy, good game player!

Hope kushal remains out!

Today's hero was Tanisha, tomorrow someone else will steal the thunder.

Hail Bigg Boss!

Monday, 21 October 2013

Stay Alert, Stay Safe, Stay happy!

The city sleeps early, I know! But I need to reach to my daughter now now now!

Husband on a medical conference, wife doing her shift in the hospital, six months old daughter was kept with her maternal grandmother. But the new mother couldn't bear the separation and wore her strongest heart and left for her mother's place in a rickshaw at ten 'o' clock in the night.

In 1978, ten 'o' clock used to be night - quiet, settled and sleeping! Not a soul on road! It was also a time when 'those few men' still behaved like human, when they still had some amount of respect and emotions left in them, when they still feared God!

But one thing was still same - Woman. Then also, women were the one who gave birth to the 'man' yet had to demand their respect and position from them. Then also, women followed their dreams and were extremely strong yet vulnerable! Then also, women were face of Durga, yet needed protection. The irony continues!

Going back to the incident, the new mother started fine, but after a while she realized that she was being stalked by a man on cycle. She was brave enough to put herself in control. Motherhood was good enough a reason to give her the strength to fight any obstacles on her way. Her destination was not far but yet she had to cross a long single lane road to reach home. That mere distance seemed to be hundreds of kilometer far to her. The man on cycle was right behind singing loud. And in that spur of moment, God heard her silent prayers. From somewhere an ambassador came and man behind wheels stared honking so that he gets some space to cross the rickshaw. Her face lit up. Her presence of mind worked and she instructed rickshaw puller to not give the ambassador any side and keep the rickshaw right in the middle of the lane. The man in ambassador kept on honking, it was enough to scare that unscrupulous creature. The man on cycle crossed by and went ahead. She reached safely to her mother's place to find her daughter crying bitterly. She ran and hugged her tight. Both cried for a while and both got settled within few minutes.

35 years have made many changes! Ten 'o' clock is still evening. 'Those FEW men' have nothing human about them and women's safety or shall I say female gender's safety, as age has become no bar for 'those few men', has become a major issue.

I am a woman but still can't even imagine half the pain those victims go through. I know I am very strong and I can fight my battle alone! But can I take a chance just because I feel so! Well, I am no Dharmender or Amitabh and I am not ashamed to acknowledge this fact. 

I was thrilled to see such an application in the advertisement and I didn't wait for a review or opinion. I downloaded it and checked it instantly. I tried it on my brother. Funny but he was in the bathroom when he received the message "I am in trouble.....", he just rushed out to find me. I was happily sitting on the sofa where he came huffing and puffing and angrily asked, "What the hell is this? Why did you send such a message. Are you out your mind." I laughed and said, "Relax Bhai, I was just checking 'Smart Surakhsha' application. Haha but I liked it. With just a tap I know my personal bodyguards will certainly come running wherrrre everrrr they are and wherrrre everrrr I am! I'll alert you all and I'll be safe for sure and I am happppyyy!"

Back then telephone was an invention but today there is as many mobile phones as many people in the family. I wish the new mother also had Smart Surakhsha with her, she would have felt  bolder and could have called right help at right time! Anyways, thank God for he was around! Thanking God again, for he gave enough intelligence to mankind for such an application!

In my family, we all have put our phones to the correct use, using our presence of mind which we got from our mother. May be this application is not going to give us any additional power to fight, but the moral support it gives is a big thing! Indeed! 

Go get your application girls, ladies and all! Put it to correct use and be sate wherever you are! 
Stay alert, Stay safe, Stay happy!

I am participating in the Seeking Smart Suraksha contest at in association with Smart Suraksha App.

Saturday, 5 October 2013

Misunderstanding is GOOD!

She said 'HI',
He mistook it to be 'BYE'!

Boy's thought!

Just a small fight,
Can change every site!
Arrogant, snobbish & rude,
Huh! Like I care!
I am a popular dude!
I will find a new face,
There are many in the race!

Girl's thought!

Oh! Why did you come so late,
it had been such a long wait!
Yes, we had a fight,
It will make our relationship more tight!
Relationship is a tough ride,
ups and downs,
everything seems right,
With you by my side!

Fate Ahead!

Their thoughts were poles apart,
True love was not there, in the heart!
They parted their ways,
life opened new gates!

A misunderstanding,
is a relationship test,
to judge it's strength and standing!

This post is a part of Write Over the Weekend, an initiative for Indian Bloggers by BlogAdda.